Dear Etiquetteer: I got onto Facebook recently and was really surprised when someone I used to go to school with friended me. This person was a real jerk to me and I still get angry about how I was treated. Is there some way out of this situation?
Dear Friended:
Facebook and other social networking sites get used carelessly through some of their "convenient" services. Etiquetteer has received many friend requests from a Sworn Enemy who habitually finds friends by downloading all his e-mail contacts into these sites. No matter how clear Etiquetteer makes it that this is unwelcome, it's easily explained as a technical glitch (and Etiquetteer's fraying benefit of the doubt).
It's also possible that this person doesn't remember your shared history the way you do. Regardless, all you have to do is click "Ignore" and that should put an end to it.
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