With the end (?) of the pandemic hopefully in sight, business life is returning in some measure to in-person conferences and company-wide gatherings. For some it’s a welcome return, but for others it’s a challenge. Etiquetteer has a few tips to polish those rusty corporate people skills. An important part is putting yourself in the Perfectly Proper state of mind.
Expect to meet people you don't already know and interact with them. Remaining against the wall or with colleagues you know may feel more comfortable, but you miss expanding your network when you do.
Be able to talk about more than the weather and parking problems. You will appear well-informed by skimming the news and/or the latest magazines before the event. Be aware of currrent events in the world and in your field.
The handshake has remained the standard greeting, but not everyone is shaking hands because of the pandemic. Respect everyone’s choices.
Use first and last names when introducing yourself or introducing others with you. “Hi, I’m Stacy Smith. This is John Manley and Yolanda Williams.”
Use your left hand to hold your drink so your right hand is warm and dry for shaking hands. Don’t shake hands if your right hand is greasy or crumbly with food; have a cocktail napkin handy to keep clean.
Hors d’oeuvres leftovers like toothpicks and shrimp tails are a nuisance. Tuck them someplace discreet, like an ashtray or dish, wastebasket, or your purse or pocket.
Ask questions that require more than a Yes or No answer. Instead of “Did you see that movie?” try “What movies have you seen?”
Cocktail party conversations ebb and flow. It’s no sin when someone says “I’ve enjoyed talking with you, have a nice evening” or “Thanks, I need to join some colleagues” and moves to another part of the room. Remain where you are, or move in another direction.
“May I give you my business card?” is also an effective way to begin to end a conversation. If offered a card and you have none with you to offer back, say “I’m so sorry, I don’t have my cards with me tonight. I'll be sure to reach out to you soon.” Then remember to bring them to the next event. (Etiquetteer is often very guilty of forgetting cards.)
Event staff are people, too, and should be treated with consideration. Staff at the registration desk and servers should be thanked briefly for their help. Start any request with “Please.”
Etiquetteer wishes you many pleasant and Perfectly Proper business interactions.