Dear Etiquetteer:I am putting together my wedding invitation wording and have hit a roadblock. As the bride, my parents are hosting the wedding. My mom, being the closet feminist that she is, does not want me to address them as “Mr. and Mrs. John Smith.” I find this rather archaic myself, but what is the alternative while still using honorifics and not offending any one else? These are the options I have come up with: “Mr. And Mrs. Smith,” “Mrs. Mary and Mr. John Smith,” and “Mr. and Mrs. John and Mary Smith.” Which one would be the most proper etiquette? Please help me! 

Dear Bride to Be: 

The honorific “Mrs.” is used with Perfect Propriety only with the name of the husband, e.g. “Mrs. Stephen Haines.” If your mother does not wish to be referred to as “Mrs. John Smith,” then the form your wedding invitation should take is:

 Mr. John Smith and Ms. Mary Smith

request the honour of your presence

at the marriage of their daughter

Miss Perfectly Proper Smith

to Mr. Manley Firmness

Feminists everywhere claimed the honorific “Ms.” in the 1970s, and it has only grown in acceptance since then. It’s high time, in Etiquetteer’s opinion, for your mother to come out of the closet.

 

Dear Etiquetteer:

I have recently gone through an interview, and sent both parties a thank-you note, via email. They mentioned they would be interviewing for the next 2-3 weeks. Since I have sent the thank-you notice, how long should I wait till I contact them again? How should I contact them, phone or email? How often should I attempt to contact them?Dear Interviewed:

Since you have already initiated correspondence with your interviewers via email, Etiquetteer suggests that you continue to correspond with them this way. So as not to appear impatient, you might wait to check in with your interviewer after 3.5 weeks have passed, making a gentle inquiry to see if you can provide additional information.

Etiquetteer wishes you well in your job search, and encourages you, after subsequent job interviews, to send a letter of thanks through the mail on crisp white stationery. It still makes a positive impression, and it also gives you more of an opportunity to proofread.